The power to create the life you want resides within you. If you seek change you must put forth actions that reflect the results you hope to obtain, not the patterns of behavior that breed the same old, same old.

Many Kiwi Moms already know that the only thing you really have any control over is your own thoughts and actions. We can’t force others to respond as we would like them to, but we can create very different results simply by implementing new actions or behaviors to achieve the change we are seeking.

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In a very busy mommy world, it is easy to feel less than perfect, lost, or just “out of balance”. In particular for women, who do so much for those we love, work with, or feel obligated to, that we often forget to replenish our “wells.” Without sufficient replenishing we soon deplete ourselves of the essential elements that we need to function as “happy campers” and our “nasty evil twin” begins to rear its ugly head! Depleting ourselves can happen so unconsciously that one may not even recognize the signs until it has stripped away the vibrant person who we used to be and left behind a tired, dissatisfied, numb or angry version of our old self.

For those of you who need to add just a drop more fun and time for self-care or for those of you who need to be pulled, pushed and dragged out of the quicksand that your busy life has created, KIWI’s new Seeking Balance blogs are here for you!

Much wisdom can be gained by sharing your own challenges and success in the journey to live life fully with passion and balance, while maintaining an awareness on raising our families with an eye towards a cleaner environment and a healthy, natural lifestyle. Actively making time to feed your spirt is paramount!

The following starter kit of ideas can be considered little mini life jackets to use as you seek to obtain the balance that brings inner peace, glow and spark back into your life.

Give up perfection.

Find time to exercise.

Replace negative “self talk” with positive affirmations.

Stop apologizing for your feelings.

Do something fun that you used to enjoy.

Make a date with yourself to hear yourself think.

Don’t sacrifice your dreams.

-June Grushka-Rosen M.Ed. is a mommy of two, psychotherapist, and the owner of ExtraordinarYou, a life coaching and educational services business. To contact: June@URextraordinary.com

I had the benefit of working from home during my pregnancy.

Since I had only two pregnant friends ever, when I became pregnant I dove into research, becoming obsessed with things that had no prior relevance to me. My neighbor was an infant massage and prenatal yoga teacher so I devoured all of her books. I read everything, including out-of-print hippy-dippy books like the Wise Woman books, “Spiritual Midwifery” and “Our Babies Ourselves,” and the bestsellers with some good fiction (“Midwives”), and comedy (Jenny McCarthy’s “Belly Laughs”). I could talk the talk. By the time my husband Michael and I began our baby classes, I could have taught them! One thing was certain: I did not trust the medical community and I was obsessed with both breastfeeding and immunization policy. Unfortunately, the Sears “Breastfeeding Book” came along after my pregnancy, I can now recite it by chapter. If my next kid is a boy, his middle name may be Sears.

I have a hard time not being so forthright about nursing and pushing my social agenda because it’s consumed my life for the past two years. I could have an associate’s degree in breastfeeding at this point. I realize that ultimately and most importantly, a woman has a right to choose whether or not she wants to nurse. Some women physically cannot nurse (or have surrogates or adopt) and certain occupations make it very difficult to continue, so I try to be very respectful. But sometimes I’m not. (Sorry!)

-Audra Hughes

My daughter Sylvie just turned two. For the past year, I’ve been trying to wean her, and guess what: I am failing. I am not in control.

This morning, my fearless toddler leaped out of her crib sideways as if jumping into a wave, all in an effort to coax me into the glider chair that has become my straight jacket. If I try to do anything else, she has a meltdown. What would happen if I got rid of the chair or put it in the family room so my husband could glide, drink beer and watch hockey? Well, we all know what would happen. I’d be sitting on the floor of Sylvie’s room while she wrangles my bra exclaiming “BOOBIE, BOOBIE, BOOBIE!”

So for a moment, I relax, and melt into her moody blue eyes that give me a special flirtatious wink, reserved only for me. A few minutes go by, I fall back into my morning panic, peek at the dog who is desperate to go outside and imagine the boob job I’m going to need in a few years.

I experience a hundred different emotions on a daily basis about breastfeeding. It consumes me. I have my highs and lows. Some days I feel empowered and loving, while other days I feel resentful and guilty. To be a Type-A control freak who is controlled by a baby comes with its own set of issues.

Hello, and welcome to The Boob Chronicles.

-Audra Hughes

Regardless if your children are tots, tweens or in-be-tweens, summer can truly be the time of the year where great family memories can be made. A welcome change in routine, lazy mornings to snuggle, trips to the beach, visiting relatives and extra quality family time are true gifts. But sometimes, too much extra time to enjoy each other, mixed with lack of planning, can lead to days that feel like the summer sun will never set! Here are 6… well 10, summer survival tips I have borrowed…OK stolen from experienced moms who have maintained not only their sanity but sense of fun after many a summer. I hope they will be as helpful to you, as they have been to me and my mommy clients.

1. Be present- Focus! When you are with your kids…be with your kids.

2. Mommy time - Schedule time for yourself. This tip is essential to having a make or break summer with your children. No one is happy unless mommy is happy!

3. Be prepared- Have daily planned activities so your kids don’t become restless. There are many resources for camps, local activities and summer events. Or create your own mini camp with other interested parents, sharing each other’s individual skill-set with neighborhood children.

4. Mommy time- Actually schedule this time on your calendar. Otherwise it will never happen!

5. Be flexible- Even the best thought out plans often need to be scratched. Remember the objective is to have an enjoyable summer, so throw your plans to the wind from time to time!

6. Mommy time- Consider starting a summer bank account, exchanging childcare with other trusted moms. Bank “mommy time” by swapping “sanity hours”.

7. Team work- Summer is a great time to oil the family machine. Keeping in mind the age of your children, invite them to participate in planning activities. Children love to feel in control. This will help avoid nasty power struggles!

8. Mommy time- Put down the sponge and let a few dust bunnies run, in order to make time for yourself. You will be surprised how everything and everyone will survive!

9. Safety- Keep a close watch. Statistically, more accidents take place with children during the summer months. A visit to the E.R. can really take the wind out of your summer sails.

10. Mommy time-…Clearly this tip cannot be over stated. Take that time for yourself (guilt-free), in order to be a happy summer mommy. This crucial tip will lead to a memorable summer for you and your kids!!!!!

Calling all moms to comment with your own Summer Survival Tips, because we still have 35 days until Labor Day…but who’s counting??!!

-June Grushka-Rosen M.Ed. is a mommy of two, psychotherapist, and the owner of ExtraordinarYou, a life coaching and educational services business. To contact: June@URextraordinary.com

Remember it is not always easy to talk to your kids at a young age about issues that they will hopefully not encounter until much older. As in the Appletini incident highlighted in my last Blog, here are five useful tips for having “the conversation.”

1. Start early: It is much easier to initiate conversations regarding drugs and alcohol when your children are seven, rather than seventeen. Start early and often!

2. Keep appropriate: Keep the conversation age appropriate and discuss making healthy choices for their bodies. Introduce consequences for behavior. “You want to make good healthy choices for your body, so your body won’t get sick”.

3. Expressing feelings: Create an environment of listening that supports your child’s ability to express their feelings. As your child grows and their interests widen to friends and activities outside the home, you want them to continue to talk to you about their feelings and “keep you in their loop.”

4. Problem solving: Have your child identify safe people to talk to about their problems (including you). Discuss what can happen if they “mask” or hide their emotions. Modeling healthy ways to resolve and express issues with your child empowers them to tackle the bumps in the road.

5. Safety rules: Discuss the importance of safety rules and the dangers of touching, tasting or smelling things that they can’t identify. Stress how very dangerous this can be.

Open communication with your child early on, practicing patience, problem solving, listening to your child and teaching consequences for their behavior are excellent foundations for laying the ground work for future “tough stuff discussions” including the use of alcohol as they head into the pre- teen years. (Oh, the Teen Years…when you will want that Appletini!)

Written by: June Grushka-Rosen (Miss. June Bug) M.Ed. is a Life Coach, Educator, Psychotherapist and mommy of two.
To contact - LifeCoachingYou@Verizon.net

KIWI presents: A new blog series on “Positive Parenting” from June Grushka-Rosen.

Many believe that children and their innate ability to use their imagination go hand in hand. Unfortunately, more and more, a child’s gift to create imaginary places, invisible friends and to dream about the future is not always second nature. This can be compounded by parents who feel uncomfortable when children explore outside the boundaries of what they see as reality. However, the necessity to help prompt a child to grow his/her imagination is increasingly important, due to rising negative stimuli including the over-indulged child, as in the child that has everything done for them and is given to in excess with no boundaries or expectations from their parents. As well as the disadvantaged child, a child that has been deprived of basic needs that may include environmental factors that lead to a lack of nurturing needed to stimulate creative thinking

Imagination is essential as a foundation for problem solving. I have found that while working with preschoolers in an affluent community, in addition to gang affiliated teenagers from the inner-city, that a key component to a child or teen’s ability to thrive and move towards success, is their capacity to rely on their imagination to problem solve. It can be simply having tots who are needed to quietly move from one location to another imagine that they are a magnificent colorful butterfly with arms as wings, silently soaring magically from one place to the next. What a fun contribution to teach a child that is working on curbing their impulse to talk when it may not be appropriate.

It is also my experience that role playing with groups of teens has proven to stimulate their knack to use their imagination by “thinking out side the box” and enhancing their capability to problem solve. If a teen is given the opportunity to “play the part” of the parent or teacher or voice of authority, they often feel empowered by the chance to be heard. Creating an environment to help a teen use their creativity to solve problems and set their own limitations can be a powerful tool to impart upon them.

Nurturing these skills in children gives them perspective and resources to find hope when others my only see hopelessness. The gift of encouraging imaginative-play fosters one’s depth to look at life’s challenges expansively. Growing a child’s imagination can lead to raising a unique problem solver, bring a sparkle to routine activities and encourage children to see a world filled with endless possibilities!

Written by: June Grushka-Rosen, MEd., is a Life Coach, Educator and Psychotherapist
To contact - LifeCoachingYou@Verizon.net

As kids, we all love toys we put together, like Legos and Build-a-Blocks and Lincoln Logs– all great toys. But as environmentally conscience parents, how do we choose the best imaginative gifts that are safe for our children and our environment?

Here is a toy that will satisfy your little builder and your eco-conscience. This Solar Lego-Style Helicopter is a must have for the little scientist in your family. It’s a great way to learn about reusable energy, solar power and building techniques– all tools for a innovative kid.

The building blocks are not compatible with other brands of building toys, but the rotor blade, panel and motor are compatible with Lego, K’Nex, Fischer Technik, Atco and Eitech.

Available at OutdoorGB, $28.93. Ages 4 & up.

I’ve been a bag blogger lately! KIWI has been crazy. First I was in Seattle for the ALIVE! Expo and then in San Francisco for the Green Festival. Updates and fun, new products to follow, of course!

Promise, pinky swear, cross my heart– New blogs coming this week!

“Kids are so powerful, and the biggest power they have is access to and influence on their parents. They can say, ‘Hey, what kind of car are we buying next– a hybrid?’ ‘Why are we driving an SUV, Dad?’”

-Laurie David, when asked “What can kids do with information about global warming?” in the latest issue (Sept/Oct 2007) of KIWI.

Everyone knows the three r’s of the green movement- reduce, reuse, recycle. One question that arises from this mantra is what can I actually recyle, reduce and reuse? Sure, we all know paper and glass, but what else? Thanks to Co-op America, we now know more! Co-op America is a not-for-profit membership organization founded in 1982 whose mission is to harness economic power to create a socially just and environmentally sustainable society.

According to Co-op America, here is a list of of “21 Things You Didn’t Know You Could Recycle” (or reuse!).

1. Applicances
2. Batteries
3. Cardboard boxes
4. Cds/DVDs/Game disks
5. Clothes
6. Compact fluorescent bulbs
7. Compostable bio-plastics
8. Computers and electronics
9. Exercise videos
10. Eyeglasses
11. Foam packings
12. Ink/toner cartridges
13. Miscellaneous
14. Oil
15. Phones
16. Sports equipment
17. “Technotrash”
18. Tennis shoes
19. Toothbrushes and razors
20. Tyvek envelopes
21. Stuff you just can’t recycle– Co-op America recommends that when practical, send such items back to the manufacturer and tell them they need to manufacture products that close the waste loop responsibly.

For complete instructions on how to recycle and reuse these 21 items, go to Co-op America’s site right here.

Again, our server went down and it took almost everything with it! Our surveys, our blog and our sweepstakes were all offline. Hopefully we have fixed the problem, and we can return to just being KIWI!

Thank you for your patience while we sorted out this problem.

The Kiwi Family

Who didn’t see this one coming? Kiwi’s Pick of the Week is the amazing and wonderful 7th book by J. K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows.

While claims have been made that Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows is slated to be the “greenest book in publishing history,” according to Markets Initiative, that is not really what KIWI is focusing on. It is true that the book has been printed on 100% recycled paper in some countries like Canada, and 65% of the books published in the US are not printed on trees from ancient forests. According to Markets Initiative, the publishing of the seventh book saved 137,609 million BTUs of electricity, 197,685 trees, 327,657,453 liters of water and avoided 7,876 tonnes of CO2. Don’t get us wrong– we are cheering as loud as we would at a Quidditch match for the eco-friendly Harry Potter.

If not for these reasons, then why is HP the Pick of the Week? One simple reason– it gets children (and their parents) reading! The last in the book series sold 11 million copies worldwide in 24 hours. Pretty much every child has read at least one of the Harry Potter books. The wonderful characters that Rowling developed allow families all over to connect over the trials and tribulations of Harry, Ron, Hermoine and company. It is amazing to hear parents and children alike asking each other, “Can you believe that happened?” or exclaiming “I knew it! Mom, I told you!”.

The series by J.K. Rowling has created a new army of readers in the young and the old. Personally, I have turned many of my friends on the books who were not readers in the first place. These novels achieve the almost impossible– creating characters who you fall in love with, sympathize with, and want to continue to read and read and read about. And all in the world of wizards and witches.

So this week, we applaud Harry Potter and all that he (and his creator) have done for all Muggle kind!

Hey guys! KIWI’s server has been down. Well, it is back up now, so be on the look out for some cool stuff coming from us. Sorry if anyone was trying to read the blogs or eco-crafts or recipes… or the surveys!

A new blog should be going up later today/tonight sometime. Have a lovely week!