KIWI parents know what an important job it is to keep our children healthy and protected when they are young. Unfortunately, part of that protection is giving them the tools they need to begin to address the harsh realities that life can bring, including the “Bully Factor”. Our kiddos may find it helpful if we can define a bully and help them to identify bullying behavior when and if they should encounter one. As raised in Stop Bullying me…and my Planet part one, teaching children action steps to address what to do if they are being bullied will help to empower them when faced with a frightening situation.

Defining a bully for your child may be the first useful step. Bullying amongst kids usually takes the form of repeated intimidating behaviors, usually using domineering physical or psychological tactics. Here are a few indicators to look for to help your child understand if they are being bullied. For younger kids, bullying may take the form of:

• Grabbing, pushing, shoving
• Teasing, name calling, taunting
• Taking things without permission
• Starting rumors
• Being excluded or left out
• Other blatant mean and hurtful intimidating behaviors

When discussing actions steps for handling a bully with your child, stress that generally, bullying is behavior that is repeated over and over again (not just a “one time incident”). Here are some empowering options for you and your child to discuss as you begin to “take on the bullies”:

• Don’t “take the bait”- bullies seek out sensitive children.
• Stay near friends and adults
• Be assertive and tell the bully to stop.
• Embrace differences. Bullies attack anything “different.” Celebrate who you are!
• Work on expressing your emotions without fear.
• Tell your parents and teachers about the bully!

If your child is being bullied I would like to hear your concerns and strategies for facing “the Bully Factor.”

-June Grushka-Rosen M.Ed. is a mommy of two, psychotherapist, and the owner of ExtraordinarYou, a life coaching and educational services business. To contact: June@URextraordinary.com

Countless people see bullies as a mere inconvenience rather than a truth to be reckoned with. But bullying behavior, like the assault we have committed on the planet, is abusive, and when repeated over and over again it can be detrimental.

Over the last several weeks I have been approached by parents having concerns about their children being bullied, ranging in age from kindergarten through high school. One child even suggested that he thought his parents should move out of the state! Childhood is filled with children learning to “play nice together” and for that matter, most adults are still learning that lesson too. But bullying is a serious matter and unfortunately, some parents overlook early signs of having a bully of their own, or their child’s experience of being bullied. They dismiss the evidence, as “kids will be kids”.

Conversely, other parents feel an initial rage when they hear or see a child being targeted. I have even heard my sweet, even-tempered husband refer to a little girl that was bossy and taunting my daughter Sasha to tears, as a terrorist! Ok, so maybe she wasn’t a true bully or a terrorist, but she managed to make my husband’s salt and pepper curls…. go straight! Fortunately, like my husband, a parent’s frenzy typically dissipates, but they are left with confusion as to how to help their child navigate the situation. Clearly, interventions will vary and depend upon the children’s ages, severity and frequency of bullying.

Our children really do need a kinder, gentler, and greener planet to grow up on. It’s up to all of us to stand up to the truth about bullying in our homes, playgrounds, play groups, classrooms, school hallways, and on the internet, while we empower our children with strategies for taking action on their own when they or their precious planet is being bullied!

Please submit comments or strategies on issues related to the Bully Factor!

Check back for Positive Parenting Tips for taking on bullies.

-June Grushka-Rosen M.Ed. is a mommy of two, psychotherapist, and the owner of ExtraordinarYou, a life coaching and educational services business. To contact: June@URextraordinary.com

I have to admit something. In addition to having a theme song for
every new adventure, I tend to decide on a project, embark on it
zealously and then move on.

I was writing an article on school gardens for Kiwi Magazine (Sept
issue) and decided the best way to get motivated was to finally find a
spot in my yard and create a vegetable garden. I had in mind that I
wanted to spearhead an effort to create a garden at my daughter’s
preschool and decided this was my audition to see if I could really
make it happen.

I had created a compost pile which was being turned into fertilizer
gold by thousands of hard-working worms. Unfortunately, that was on
the opposite side of the property from the perfect garden spot.

I read about lasagna gardening and decided that was the best route for
my garden since the soil was not rich and was also very rocky. I
carefully tapped a series of posts to mark my territory but ended up
making the garden way too big for my first attempt. It’s currently 8′
x 20′. I carefully laid newspapers on the ground and covered them
with about 5 inches of fresh compost which took me at least 10 trips
from the compost pile. Sweating profusely, I filled every inch of my
too-big garden with worm-filled compost.

I decided to plant tomato plants instead of starting with seeds
because I wanted immediate gratification. But, I did plant seeds for
cucumber, beans, watermelon and pumpkin and they’re all doing quite
well. This summer seems to be the perfect conditions for a vegetable
garden and the site I chose seems to be working out well.

I am only telling all of you this because I often just wing it. I
started throwing table scraps into a pile of leaves in a place where
my dogs couldn’t access and *poof* I have a very productive compost
pile. I toss in shredded newspaper and hay, turn it every so often,
but largely ignore it. The worms do all of the work.

I also largely ignore my garden. I just make sure it’s not too dry
and that the tomato plants are tied to stakes and leave it alone. I
don’t weed, trim, groom or talk to it. And it is growing like mad.

Some plants are faring better than others, but the lesson I learned is
to just give it a go and you’ll be so surprised. And, if it doesn’t
work the first time, step back, rethink it and try again.

The best part of all of this experimentation is that my daughter wants
to be outside most of the day to corral worms, water the garden and
check on her plants. I get great exercise from digging the compost
and then taking it for a ride in the wheel barrow. And, we all can’t
wait to taste the fresh vegetables that we grew without pesticides or
products.

“If there’s one thing that’s commonly and incorrectly assumed about vegan baking,” warns Hannah Kaminsky, blogger and author of My Sweet Vegan, “it’s that it can only create joyless, tasteless, ‘health food’ that won’t be as good as dairy- and egg-based baked goods.” The fact of the matter is, though, that vegan baked goods can be really delicious, and are a great alternative to more traditional treats.

Hannah’s blog (http://bittersweetblog.wordpress.com/) and cookbook are just two resources out of many that have recently begun to push vegan baking into the spotlight. Along with the publication of other books, including Vegan Cupcakes Take Over the World and The Joy of Vegan Baking, My Sweet Vegan has popularized the notion that vegan treats are tasty, satisfying, and easy to make. Additionally, many grocery stores, coffee shops, and bakeries are beginning to carry vegan baked goods, resulting in a more mainstream acceptance of cookies, cakes, and pastries made without animal products.

In a case similar to many longtime vegans, Hannah learned the techniques of vegan baking through trial and error. “Becoming vegan forced me to start working for my own treats, since no one in my family shared my ideas on a vegan diet, and there were few edible packaged sweets at the time. In dire need of satisfying my sweet tooth, I was on my own to figure things out, and learning the basics of baking simply baking par for the course,” she explains.

Fortunately, with the numerous vegan baking resources that exist today, successful results are almost guaranteed when trying to make your first egg- and dairy-free treats. How to start? Checking out a great vegan cookbook (like one of those mentioned above) is an option, or, veganize a recipe you already have. Hannah says that “cookies in general are the easiest to convert. Typically calling for butter and perhaps one egg, it’s a simple matter of switching the butter out for [non-hydrogenated] margarine, and some ground flaxseeds and water for the egg.”

While vegan baking is the obvious answer for those eschewing all animal products as part of an entire vegan lifestyle, animal-free treats are also an option for people with dairy allergies or those looking to consume less saturated fat or cholesterol. To those who are curious, Hannah suggests, “just give it a shot.” Whatever the reason for cutting out or lowering the amount of animal products you consume, “you shouldn’t have to sacrifice anything.”

Hannah’s Root Beer Float cupcakes are a great treat to make over the weekend with kids, who will enjoy drizzling the cupcakes with chocolate ganache, then topping with thick, vanilla frosting. Get the recipe at http://bittersweetblog.wordpress.com/2007/02/24/float-away/ .

-Marygrace Stergakos, Editorial Intern with KIWI Magazine

I have always worried about the environmental impact of shipping food hundreds of miles across the country and in some cases (fresh peaches in New England in January?) thousands of miles around the world. In addition, if you pay attention to the dwindling fate of local farmers, it all begins to make sense what the logical answer is: become a locavore. If you are obsessed with the idea of eating really good food, like I am, challenge yourself this summer. Try to only buy food that is grown within a 100-mile radius of your home.

Among locavore enthusiasts, a popular pastime is the “eat local challenge,” in which participants try, usually for one month, to eat only food that comes from within their community. The rest of the year, many locavores are more realistic about the limits of their devotion but still make an attempt to buy whatever local products they can.

For example, I have found a local (75 miles away) farmer, Farmer Bob, who, once a month delivers organic, free-range, grass-fed meat, eggs, and cheese to a group of us. He also makes 7 other stops within a 20-mile range on delivery day. It has been such a smashing success for him that he has brought in some of his local farmer friends and now we have options for seasonal veggies and homemade pastas and pies, all at the cost that he would sell to the local grocer. We are helping to support his farming community and he provides our families with outstanding quality foods that are extremely fresh!

If you live anywhere where there is a farming community within 100 miles of where you live, I can assure you that there is a framer Bob waiting to start a food co-op. Pick a beautiful weekend day to go explore the countryside and don’t be afraid to visit local farms and farm stands and ask lots of questions. These farmers need you as badly as you need them.

As you begin your quest to become a locavore, start by visiting http://www.localharvest.org/blog/ or http://www.eatlocalchallenge.com/ for ideas of where you can find locally grown goods in your area.

–Dr. Keri Marshall MS, ND is a licensed Naturopathic Doctor who specializes in holistic pediatrics and women’s medicine.

Gaining momentum across the country, the raw food movement advocates a diet consisting mostly or completely of whole, uncooked, and often organic foods, including fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, and sprouted grains and legumes.

Many turn to a raw diet with the belief that it promotes greater health. Raw foodists feel that valuable digestive enzymes, as well as an abundance of nutrients, are destroyed when food is heated above 120 degrees. Additionally, raw foods have the potential to aid in the management of chronic diseases, and promote weight maintenance.

Of course, you don’t have to be a raw foodist to benefit from whole, unprocessed food – try eating raw just once or twice a week. The meal could be as simple as a romaine lettuce and fresh vegetable salad tossed with a raw, pine nut-based Caesar dressing. For something more elaborate, experiment with zucchini “noodles” in a raw tomato sauce.

Raw desserts are also great to try. Rich and satisfying to any sweet tooth, these fruit and nut-based treats pack a nutritional punch not found in traditional desserts. Raw pies work well for those with gluten intolerances, as the crusts and fillings are always wheat free. This strawberry one by Colleen Patrick-Goudreau is perfect for summer. Ani Phyo’s raw donut holes are a great option for kids, who can help roll and shape the balls.

Interested in learning more? Check out the Raw Freedom Community, a message board with discussions about raw diets, raw parenting, and eco-friendly living.

-Marygrace Stergakos, Editorial Intern with KIWI Magazine

I am trying to figure out how and where to plant a garden in my yard but I have some serious obstacles. As I mentioned before, I have two very wild and crazy dogs (Mya and Stewpot) from Bratislava (kidding) who have the run of my backyard. When I say “run,” it isn’t in jest. They have run through my backyard chasing critters and actually made the pachysandra retreat and die. We have a wooded lot, so there isn’t a perfect spot in the back to plant where I wouldn’t need a 6-ft fence to keep the mutts out.

The front yard is more lush (no dogs) but the deer have realized through their pee-mail network (my husband’s joke – we have email, critters have peemail) that the dogs don’t go there. I really should install a sneeze shield and take-out containers in the front because it is one giant deer salad bar. And, I don’t want to be the eyesore of the neighborhood by building a 6-ft fence around a garden plot (although the neighbor across the way is very unfriendly, which is an incentive to build something and paint it pink).. But I really want to grow vegetables. I refuse to take down trees and container gardening just doesn’t inspire me.

I need an intervention. My mom who is 82 tells me stories about the garden her father planted and how her mom got them through winters during the Depression by canning and storing every fruit and vegetable. We always had a large vegetable garden when I was growing up in Pennsylvania. I actually used to dislike it because one of my chores was weeding it. If I had to write a country song about it, it would be titled: I Was Composting Before Composting Was Cool.

I completely forgot my daughter’s lunchbox today at school. I spend a fair bit of time preparing her fare, so it wasn’t just a sammy with chips.

It’s a lot of work to make her waste-free lunch:

• I use a thermal bag made from recycled plastic
• a wrap n mat for sandwiches
• I do use plastic (EEK!) containers with twist on tops for things like cucumber slices, hard-boiled egg and grapes
• I really have to get a bento. Considering my husband goes to Japan regularly, I imagine it won’t be that hard. Check this link out for cool lunch box ideas, www.lunchnugget.com. The original bento lunchboxer is here www.veganlunchbox.com. Inspirational, albeit a little intimidating.

Anyhow, back to the left lunch. I seriously contemplated pulling a Ferris Bueller and having a pizza and lemonade delivered to her classroom because I was in such as rush to meet some Kiwi and other deadlines. But, I sucked up the carbon footprint and drove home to retrieve the left lunch. Fortunately, it was out of doggy reach and still safe.

Admittedly, I had several phone meetings and articles to write, but I was rushing because I had a hair appointment. I am one of those people who goes to the salon about 3 times a year, and I always call to make my appoint within 4 hours of getting it cut (I wake up, decide I have to have my hair cut, and call around til I find someone to do it). I go to this cool place called FX Studios (just north of Baltimore MD - www.fxstudios.com and I had a new stylist named Grace who was very sweet and gave me a great cut. You can watch a movie as you get your hair cut (it reminds me of those kiddie cut places where the kid is parked in front of a DVD so they won’t notice). The funny part of the cut to me was the review of all of the hair products as organic, natural and vegan. I’m all for it but the chances of me using 8 hair products in one hair styling event at my home is about nil. I did like that they had a whole lobby full of natural nail care products which work really well and don’t peel off in sheets when you take a shower.

I was at my son’s travel soccer tryouts last night. The setting: a beautiful local winery that rents its fields to our town for the kids to play soccer and lacrosse. The winery is surrounded by dense New England forest, the kind every kid dreams about running through if it weren’t for the deer tick checks that inevitably follow each romp.

In New England, we wait a long time to wear tank tops and capris, following our dreadfully long winters, only to be bombarded by flying, biting bugs of all shapes and sizes. Black flies, gnats, mosquitoes… if you have ever been to New England in the summer, you know what I am taking about. The beauty is like no other, and so are the bugs.

People love to have me around because I am a natural magnet for these venomous creatures. They tend to leave others alone when I am around. Unfortunately for my daughter, I passed this gene on to her.

As a result I have been forced into finding the perfect natural insect repellent, while avoiding conventional sprays that contain DEET. And let me tell you, I have tried them all!

Here’s what works: essential oils of citronella, lemon eucalyptus, cinnamon, rosemary, lemongrass, cedar, peppermint, clove, and geranium.

The down side of these is that they require frequent application to be effective.

My personal favorite formula, Buzz Away Extreme, is made with all natural ingredients (and it smells good, too). Not only did it last an entire soccer practice, but it allowed me to water my garden three hours later, at dusk with not a single bite!!

–Dr. Keri Marshall MS, ND is a licensed Naturopathic Doctor who specializes in holistic pediatrics and women’s medicine.

I was making my family some brownies the other night and the two of them would have eaten the whole batch if I hadn’t had a sugar intervention.

Here’s where the nickname came in.

I looked over at my daughter and she had a streak of brownie goo which connected her two eyebrows. The resulting name (which I won’t utter in front of her)?

Unibrownie.

I think it’s interesting the way we label everything and everyone. I was uneasy being a vegan mainly because I wasn’t sure I could live up to the regulations associated with the name. Would people judge me for wearing leather shoes? Or scrutinize my beverages? So, I’m not a big fan of labels.

I think that might be the key to something the trendsters are calling green guilt. You try really hard to recycle, compost, reduce waste, carry a water bottle, eat local, eat plants, grow your own…but then you get to the gym and forget the water bottle. Or you jump on a treadmill and feel guilty because the thing is plugged in. It should be the other way around, right? If you pedal, run, step or walk, shouldn’t you be generating electricity?

My green guilt comes from my house, mainly. I am desperate to install solar panels, get rid of my lawn with attractive moss and groundcover, have a huge and bountiful garden (impervious to deer and bunnies), get a new eco-mattress for every bed and ditch the rugs for renewable wood floors. But, it’s not in the budget in the short-term. And, you have to remove things which have to be recycled, disposed of or somehow evaporated.

We do our best.

What is the past tense of vegan?

Vedone?
Vegone?
Vewitched, bothered and vewildered?

Here’s the deal. I love being Edamommy (I am keeping the moniker) and my alter ego, The Vegan Mary. I also like to think of myself as the 40-year-old Vegan.

But, I am ready for a new challenge, and that’s where you come into the picture. I happened to catch an episode of Sex and the City where Miranda described non-dairy vegan ravioli as kindergarten paste. Foreshadowing? I am wrapping up this vegan venture soon just because it’s time for something new to fuel my ruthless journalistic fire. I never reached the point where I fed my dogs kiddle (that’s the soy version of kibble) but I think I gave this gig a fair shot.

I have some options here. Eventually, I would love to have a gig like Matt Lauer where I am sent around the world to tropical places where someone carries my bag and does my hair and makeup, but the publisher hasn’t agreed. Yet.

So, where are we adventuring next? You can rate these items with the following – *YAWN* OR *DARE YA* (as an added bonus, feel free to suggest your own theme song)
1. Raw foods - This one makes me really nervous. My editor calls this vegan x 10, which of course makes me really want to try it. (Theme song: If lovin’ you is RAWNG, I don’t want to be right)
2. Waste-free kitchen – all compost, no plastic waste, waste-free lunches (Theme song: Guns n Roses Welcome to the Jungle)
3. Shopping diet - Not even my favorite thrift shop. Nothing except food staples. Or food and staples. (Smokey Robinson – Shop Around)
4. Keep on vegan, baby! (I can’t think of a song except Last Night a Vegan Saved my Life)
5. Your suggestion? Keep it clean and legal, please.

And here’s the coolest part! By just voting with your comments, you can be randomly chosen to receive a really awesome vegetarian cookbook.

I will announce the results of the vote in late June.

It seems only fitting to introduce a new theme song. I chose Madonna’s Like a Virgin.

I made it through the wilderness
Somehow I made it through
Didnt know how lost I was
Until I found tofu.

I was meat incomplete
I’d been had, I was sad and blue
But you made me feel
Yeah, you made me feel
Shiny and new

Like a vegan…

Who’d have thought that to help increase the population of some dwindling species, all we have to do is eat them.

That’s the premise behind Renewing America’s Food Traditions: Saving and Savoring the Continent’s Most Endangered Foods, a new book by Gary Paul Nabhan (Chelsea Green Publishing, $35).

The book takes readers on a journey across North America, introducing them to more than 1,000 edible plant and animal species, most of which they probably have never seen on the shelves of the grocery store.

But that’s exactly the point of the book. Because these items aren’t an everyday part of our diets, their numbers have dwindled over the years, as they’re not being cultivated for our consumption.

It’s all about supply and demand.

If there’s a demand for a certain food product, inevitably, a supply will be produced to best meet that demand. Nabhan hopes that his book, filled with cooking tips and recipes, will create a demand for food stuffs that once were part of our American culture. With a new interest in incorporating native foods into the American diet, farmers and ranchers will once again have a reason to cultivate the plant and animal species that have long been forgotten.

So don’t be surprised if sometime soon, you see Makah Ozette potatoes, Ojai Pixie tangerines, or Tennessee Fainting Goat meat on a menu near you! It’s all just a part of the plan to create a resurgence in native North American species.

-Jena Parise, Production Coordinator for KIWI Magazine

Here’s an interesting list for you to chew on. A well-known animal rights organization has a list of everyday junk food that is vegan. I’m not saying it’s healthy or good, but it’s vegan approved.

Things that are vegan:
Krispy Kreme Fruit Pies (Peach)
Thomas New York Style Bagels (Plain)
Ghirardelli Hot Chocolate (Double Chocolate)
Kool-Aid Drink Mix
Nabisco Uh-oh Oreos, Spring Oreos, Chocolate Creme Oreos
Newman-O’s (Chocolate Crème)
Pez Candy
Smarties (U.S. version only)
Ben & Jerry’s Jamaican Me Crazy Sorbet
Mrs. Smith’s Dutch Apple Crumb Pie Slices
Froot Loops
Pop Tarts (Unfrosted Strawberry)

Things that are not vegan:
Grilled salmon
Plain yogurt
Skim milk
Honey
Most sushi

One of the most important daily regiments that allergy sufferers need to do is a nasal cleansing rinse. Rinsing out the sinuses and nasal passageways with lukewarm saltwater is an inexpensive, natural and comfortable way to relieve irritated and inflamed tissue. I recommend doing this at least once a day during allergy season, however when pollen counts are highest, or following gardening or lawn mowing, nasal irrigation should be repeated to remove any pollen residue that inevitably produces mucous and congestion.

There are many different nasal rinsing apparatus available on the market; netty pots, Nasaline, and my personal favorite The Rhino Horn. The Rhino Horn is plastic, which has its pros and cons, a pro being that it does not break easily (like a ceramic netty pot) and it travels well. Not to mention, the shape of the Rhino Horn is ergonomically correct in that when the apparatus is held up to the nostril, the saltwater solution flows freer through the sinus passages and out the other nostril.

In addition to rinsing the sinuses, natural remedies that I have found to be most effective for treating seasonal allergies are quercetin and essentially fatty acids. Quercetin stabilizes mast cells so that histamine is not readily released. A dose of 250-500mg three times daily is most effective when allergy season is at its peak.

Essentially fatty acids are effective in reducing inflammation in mucous membranes. The ideal essentially fatty acid blend for allergies and asthma is a combination of borage oil and fish oil (EPA and DHA). I recommend Nordic Naturals Complete Omega 3-6-9 Liquid at a dose of 2 teaspoons per day.

–Dr. Keri Marshall MS, ND is a licensed Naturopathic Doctor who specializes in holistic pediatrics and women’s medicine.

I am having a major Andy Rooney moment. Not the unfortunate eyebrows part, but the “did you ever wonder” part. Did you ever wonder why all of the new diet books on the shelves are just plain mean?

The latest trend seems to be “if we abuse you, you will lose you.” Not that I need a big, authentic, reaffirming Oprah/Eckhart virtual hug every day (Imagine a day where Oprah, Eckhart, Oz and Uma are all on one show) but even Mary Poppins knew that a spoon full of sugar attracts more bees or something like that.

I just want to know what the appeal is of all of these new books that ridicule readers, oh, and happen to have a vegan-agenda. The books remind me of that girl in my college sorority who would say something nasty, always followed by the word ‘kidding” and some smug grin.

If you bought one of those books and crossed out all of the expletives and nonsense commentary with a black marker, it would read like a redacted FBI document.

Maybe I have become a humorless, cranky vegan who needs more vitamins but I could use a little more Elvis Costello – what’s so funny about peace, love and understanding?

I have never been a picky eater and I really get annoyed when dining with one. My nieces who are 18 and 20 still only eat food that usually comes with crayons and a seek-n-find placemat.

I find that to be ridiculous, although my daughter has narrowed her food selections significantly lately. She used to eat bean chili (extra mild), burritos, guacamole and bean salad. Now, it’s chicken, eggs, Caesar salad (my influence), plain pasta and pizza (and Cheetos with dad when I’m not around. But it’s hard to hide a Cheeto-fest with all of that orange evidence). She will eat a lot of fresh fruit and veggies (especially broccoli sprouts) as I mentioned, but I am trying to broaden her horizons a little.

She even drinks decaf green tea, but she is the dairy queen, ruler of all things milky and cheesy. She even asks me to tell her bedtime stories about milk. The one we made up is (scroll down to the next day if you can’t even stand the thought of reading this):

Once upon a time, there was a beautiful girl named Miriam and she lived in a castle with her dogs Mya and Stewie. And this princess loved milk. Milk, milk,milk. Milk for breakfast, snack, lunch, snack, dinner, snack. And cheese. And yogurt (“Mom – don’t forget to say ‘yogurt drinks’, too.”) But one day, there was no more milk in the kingdom of Talalay. Not one drop. Every sippy cup was empty. Princess Miriam was so sad. She asked her mom, “Hey Mom! Where’s all of the milk?” “Dunno” Princess Miriam realized if she wanted answers, she’d have to investigate it herself. She went straight to the dairy farm and asked the cows. The cows’ publicist issued this statement: ”Due to the fact that no one says thank you for milk and very few children even know where milk comes from, we are no longer providing milk.” So, Miriam says, “Well, I can understand how you feel. I love milk and I love you. Thank you for all of the milk you’ve ever given me.” From that day on, there was milk for everyone, occasionally chocolate. THE END NOW GO TO BED

I have been telling more people about my vegan venture. Some people think it’s cool and trendy. Others think I have lost my mind. I have given up coffee, too, and my sister thinks that alone qualifies me for a 5150 in California.

The coffee part isn’t going very well at all. I think about coffee a lot and sneak it. Always decaf. I switched to soy and stevia. But, it’s still coffee, no matter how you grind the bean.

I was in the Peace Corps in the former Soviet Union from 1998 to 2000. I joined when I was 32. Talk about raising eyebrows!

Going vegan is nothing compared to telling friends and family I was ditching it all, getting rid of most of my stuff and moving to a country no one has ever heard of. Slovakia is the former half of Czechoslovakia and is bordered by Poland, Austria, Ukraine, Czech Republic and Hungary. Speaking of Hungary, I’m starving.

I’m almost three weeks into this vegan thing. I don’t look different. I don’t feel different. I try to run 3 miles every day and I’ve been struggling more than usual.

Temptations are getting harder. I’m knocking on mozzarella’s door. I want a quickie with quiche. I can’t fight this feeling anymore (sorry – a new theme song from REO Speedwagon is trying to invade the Supreme’s space and I am blocking it with all of my vegemight).

I am going to renew my commitment to being a vegan. I want to make vegan friends. No more secret meatings. No more raving cravings. I am renewing my efforts. Starting tomorrow.

I have a soy dream.

Parenting kids reminds me of preparing a deliciously satisfying but complicated dish! It is often daunting to search for the right healthy recipe with natural ingredients to make the dish wholesome with just the right amount of kick. What a relief when guests rave about the dish… even better when the dish creatively stands alone. What pride you feel at getting the recipe right.

True, the stakes are much higher when trying to get the recipe right when the dish we are tending is a child. As parents we search to find the ingredients to provide the right foundation for our children’s healthy development and growth. In my practice, and as a mom, I have researched many resources looking for helpful evidenced-based parenting information. I enjoy knowing that the “recipe” has been through a test kitchen before experimenting on our own kiddies. One such resource I often recommend is Search Institute.

Search Institute researched 40 developmental assets for helping children grow up “healthy, caring and responsible” including empowering children, setting boundaries and the importance of instilling values. In the mix of raising yummy kids there needs to be a fair amount of improvisation and cooking without a recipe. However, having a staple of ingredients such as, things you can do to help your child succeed (assets), may be worth stocking up on. But, who knew there were 40 of them! (For a complete list visit Search-Institute.org)

Lastly, combine cups filled with fun, love, patience, understanding and a dash of “thyme” for seasoning and you are bound to have a great dish of a kid!

-June Grushka-Rosen M.Ed. is a Life Coach, Educator, Psychotherapist and mommy of two. To contact – June@URextraordinary.com

I’m back on the vagon.

Even without a vegantini, I am struggling more than I did in the beginning. I plan to stick with this for 3 months and give it a fair shot.

I would love to say that I will adopt veganism for life, but I think it’s inevitable that a choice will come down to having a cup of yogurt (not vegan) or a faux chicken nugget. Perhaps I’m wrong, but I think the healthier choice for me is yogurt.

It’s hard to change my perceptions; I embraced dairy for 42 years. Perhaps it’s habit more than desire, but I still associate dairy and eggs as healthy choices. I think lean organic chicken and grilled salmon are also good for me.

I don’t think fake breaded chicken nuggets (or anything with the word nugget in its name) are good for me. I have a severe case of cognitive dissonance. Yes, I realize that example took the best from one lot and the worst from the other, but you see my point.

I’ve worked hard to eat a healthy diet and avoid all things breaded and fried. I have avoided hot dogs, hamburgers, bacon and doughnuts. But, there are vegan versions of all of these things and I think it might not be a good idea to eat them even if they don’t contain animal products. Of course, this may not be about me. What?

I found a vegan website that actually has vegan versions of s’mores, Twinkies and cinnamon buns. Although I would love to try them out of sheer curiosity, I might like them and somehow give the green light to food that I have avoided for decades.

I guess the best way to continue is to always be prepared, find fun vegan food choices and do my best until my blog is bought by Omaha Steaks or Wendy’s.

I cheated. Now I am a cheatin’ vegan. I am a fair-weather vegan.

In my defense, I have been dedicated and fearless in the face of pudding, ranch dressing and Brie. It was a big date with my husband who has been traveling a lot lately. We rarely get a night out alone. I had a vegantini (no animals were harmed, but I think I was) and my inhibitions were down.

I wanted it. I had to have it. I couldn’t keep my hands off of it.

No, I’m not going to get spicy here. I wanted meat. Specifically pot stickers and a sashimi tuna martini. And they tasted amazing. Sure, I felt a little guilty but it was with my husband and it didn’t mean anything. It was just physical. It won’t happen again, I swear. I’ll go to counseling. I’ll do anything for another chance.

For most people, after a long winter, the budding of trees and spring flowers can be a greatly anticipated time of year. However, for allergy sufferers, it can be an unwelcome time as sneezing, runny nose and itchy eyes prevail. Being proactive with your health during allergy season can vastly prevent most symptoms and make springtime a time to be outdoors.

Histamine is a neurotransmitter that is released from mast cells when the body is exhibiting an allergic reaction or immune response. Histamine dilates blood vessels and increases blood vessel permeability. This leads to visual signs in the body such as localized swelling, warmth, and redness. Histamine also irritates nerve endings that can lead to itching and pain. The bump and redness immediately following a mosquito bite is a good example of this reaction, which occurs seconds after challenge of the mast cell by an allergen. If you are a person whose body “over-reacts” to bug bites, then your body likely has a tendency towards inflammation and allergy.

Try taking a daily dose of Vitamin C. Research shows that 1-gram a day can help to reduce overall histamine levels in the body. Foods that tend to increase histamine levels in the body are strawberries, tomato, chocolate, wine, bananas and shellfish. These foods should be limited or avoided all together during allergy season. In general, dairy foods such as cheese, milk and yogurt should be avoided as well, as they have a tendency to cause generalized inflammation and can create more mucous if it already exists.

Berries such as blueberries, cherries, and raspberries as well as mango contain a good amount of bioflavonoids. These phytochemicals stabilize mast cells in the body and decrease overall histamine response, thus reducing inflammation.

Lastly, try using a HEPA air filter. It can reduce dust in the bedrooms and main living areas as well as eliminate circulating pollen that enters through open windows. Be sure to keep windowsills wiped down in the bedroom and sweep under the bed. Keep in mind; the bedroom should be the most dust-free room in the house as this is where you will have the most concentrated period of breathing throughout the day!

–Dr. Keri Marshall MS, ND is a licensed Naturopathic Doctor who specializes in holistic pediatrics and women’s medicine.

Say you want to try vegan food and don’t want to have to cook different meals for your family. In the early stages, it’s daunting and time-consuming to figure out how to maintain nutritional balance and not fall back into old patterns. Prepare to be amazed. Two words: Hungry Vegan. Meet Amy Townsend. (Amy, Future Vegan. Future Vegan, Amy.) Now kiss and hug her. Amy started the Hungry Vegan (www.hungry-vegan.com) which is a company that ships prepared organic vegan meals nationwide. I don’t live in Manhattan and even getting the pizza guy to find my house is a struggle, but somehow Amy managed to send a cooler of vegan food to my doorstep. It’s some of the best food I have ever tasted. The mushroom bisque with thyme was delicious and cleared my sinuses. For around $85 per week (delivery charges vary based on location), I have been eating delicious, nutritious food which requires minimal prep time. Amy has about 50 clients per week who order her prepared meals and most of them are women (she also mentioned that most of their names start with the letter J. I would have thought V). Her next step is to launch a second vegan menu geared toward reversing diabetes and heart disease. It will be a no oil/no salt added/low glycemic diet that follows the guidelines of the Physicians’ Committee for Responsible Medicine. As the Vegan Mary, I hereby declare Amy to be Vegemighty.

I belong to a moms’ group and one of the members is an amazing artist (www.happytomatokids.com). She is also a meat maven, pork princess, lamb lover, veal vixen, hamburger helper and a chicken champ. She stalks follows famous chefs and all of their culinary creations. We are the Laverne and Shirley, the Odd Couple, the Charlotte and Samantha, or the Homer and Ned Flanders of the great meat debate. We discovered our dueling blogs (hers is www.happyhoarfrost.com) through a mutual friend. Turns out, my meat-loving friend just ate her with f-f-f-fava beans. You’ll have to look up the term hoarfrost on your own. I can assure you it only sounds naughty.

One edamommy attempts to cut meat out of her life.

I have to say, the ramp-up time is more significant than I ever imagined. Do you realize how many products contain some form of animal in them? And honey?Some very strict vegans won’t consume certain sugar products or wines because of the way they’re filtered.I have to just look the other way when it comes to the wine. You can only ask for so much.I keep saying (joking) that I am going to write a book (I actually am writing a book about being 32, single and joining the Peace Corps, but that’s another entry for another day) called Chicken Soup for the Vegan Soul.Surprisingly, people are taking me seriously. Either my bagel disequilibrium has really thrown me off course, or I am just not funny. I am going to write to the Chicken Soup publisher and see if they bite on the idea. I guess maybe I am turning into one of those people that says “It’s not the heat, it’s the humidity.”

One edamommy attempts to cut meat out of her life.

I know I am not a full-fledged vegan. I’m still not sure joining TV (Team Vegan) is my ultimate destiny.But, on a non-vegan front, I believe I may have reformed the Reform Judaic Seder at my daughter’s preschool with a decidedly non-vegan move. I was asked to bring hard-boiled eggs to the Seder celebration yesterday and I posed what I thought was a typical question: peeled or unpeeled? Then, I happened to mention to the preschool director that I buy eggs already hardboiled and peeled.Complete silence.“You do what?”Feeling sheepish at my flagrant lack of knowledge of Seder customs, I responded “I buy them already cooked and peeled.”“You can buy them cooked and peeled???” They responded in unison in complete disbelief. “Where, oh where, can we buy these eggs?”

Apparently, making the hardboiled eggs is a major thorn in the side of Seder prep, at least for these two women. Ironically, we attended the children’s Seder and the meal that followed; someone had made their own eggs and they were not cooked all of the way through (Salmonella Seder?). Sometimes it pays to cheat.I have to tackle one other awkward non-vegan/Seder subject. I have to admit something, in addition to the embarrassing habit of choosing theme songs for events in my life (see Day 1).I fall down miserably when it comes to bagel equilibrium. Bagel equilibrium is achieved when you have enough bagels and their accoutrements including cream cheese (I eat with peanut butter now) and broccoli sprouts (more on sprouts later – I married into the broccoli sprout empire so there might be some shameless promotion for www.brassica.com).I always am short of one ingredient—tubs of cream cheese, no bagels, no sprouts; dozen bagels, no cream cheese, 3 boxes of sprouts. You get the picture.So, I finally, finally reached bagel equilibrium and now it’s Passover. No bagels, just matzah for a week.Happy Passover. I hope you achieve unleavened equilibrium.

One edamommy attempts to cut meat out of her life.

The most challenging part of this transition is not at all what I expected. I don’t miss meat (yet). I am ok with soy yogurt, although I wouldn’t want to be stranded on a desert island with it yet. The most difficult part is the time it takes to read through every ingredient and really try to determine if the product could be vegan. I love when the product actually says it’s vegan right on the label because it cuts my shopping time significantly. I just want to thank Amy’s Kitchen for a) labeling their products vegan (or not) and eliminating my neophyte guesswork AND b) making really delicious vegan food. Why, they even have vegan pizza! I am trying to eat tons of fresh fruit and veggies, but there are just some evenings where I am making dinner for my beloved meat eaters (or they want to eatpizza) and I can not be tempted because I have a few prepared foods on hand. It’s not an every day occurrence but it is very helpful as an option.

Amy’s Kitchens also has an awesome section on their website about using their food to diet. I think it’s pure genius. I have a family member who goes on one of those commercial diet plans every year for about 6 months and it costs a lot of money (she told me $100 or more per week in food when you include fees and delivery). My theory is to buy healthy frozen food from Amy’s, buy lots of fresh, organic fruits and vegetables and buy a great pair of walking shoes with the money you save on fees. Amy’s gives you free downloadable diet and other tools. I have a trip planned this week so I am going to give it a whirl when I return. Let me know if you’ve tried it. I need to lose this baby weight before my baby is driving. I am also trying to keep everything organic as much as possible. You can certainly eat a lot of junk or less healthy food as a vegan, so keeping it fresh and organic is important to me. One of my dearest friends (Hi Jessica!) warned me that, when she went vegetarian 12 years ago (she’s mostly vegan from what she described), she managed to find every junk food product possible. Jessica and I have a major sugar addiction which we are trying to tame (any ideas out there?) I switched to stevia and blue agave (and just raw sugar), but I am talking sweets like chocolate and baked goods. Every time I write my blog, I get hungry. -”Edamommy” Mary Talalay is a writer for KIWI Magazine

Although I did not set out with a strategy to veganize, it is evolving slowly. I am trying many of the convenience foods out of sheer curiosity. I have to think it’s easier now than ever to be a vegan because all of our vegancestors (I just made that word up) experimented with egg, cheese, milk and meat substitutes and figured out a way to make most of it taste good and be better for you. The vegan cheese I tried goes in the same category as carob; it looked like cheese, smelled like cheese and tasted like toe jam or a refrigerator science experiment. Should cheese be spongy? In my experience, the only edible cheese that is spongy is cheesecake. I just had a Homer Simpson moment. Mmmmmmm. Cheesecake. Although I want to reduce my family’s meat consumption, it does concern me that there are so many ingredients in packaged meat-replacement products. As this vegan-venture continues, I still want to try prepared foods periodically, but plan on finding great cookbooks so I cook fresh ingredients and healthier dishes.

My very picky daughter loves Morningstar Farms chicken nuggets which I mistakenly assumed were vegan. But, she eats chicken or turkey most days so I am happy to find what I think may be a healthier option. Happily, she eats fruit and vegetables with gusto. I don’t give her very much packaged food but I do keep some on hand for emergencies or general lack of preparation on my part (you know – it’s 5:45 and you have no idea what dinner will be). Through our highly scientific testing (I eat one, my daughter eats one, the dogs each get one), not all “cheatin’ chicken” nuggets are created equal. I found some (brand shall remain nameless) which are vegan and no one could eat them. They had a grey, spongy (do you notice a theme about eating spongy food?) interior and there were not enough condiments in my house, even the hot buffalo wing sauce I put on everything, to cover up those bad actors. The dogs seemed to enjoy them, but they often eat inappropriate things. Including my daughter’s Easter basket (just the basket, not the contents.)-”Edamommy” Mary Talalay is a writer for KIWI Magazine

Did you know?

• Omega-3 fats taken during pregnancy and breastfeeding can reduce a mother’s risk for postpartum depression

• Omega-3 fats support the healthy development of the fetal brain, eyes, nervous system, and immune system

• Omega-3 fats significantly reduce the risk of allergies in infants

• Omega-3 fats improve attention and focus in infants and young children

One thing we know for certain is that being pregnant does not automatically mean that you will become depressed after the birth of your child. However, if you do not nourish your body properly during pregnancy and breastfeeding you are at risk. DHA (docosahexaenoic acid) is an Omega-3 essential fatty acid that makes up approximately 20% of the human brain and nervous system. DHA is considered essential because the body cannot produce this type of fat and it is essential that it is obtained from the diet.During the last trimester of pregnancy, the developing fetus’ nervous system undergoes a tremendous growth spurt. In order for the developing nervous system to grow properly, it requires healthy fat in the form of DHA from the mother. Maternal stores of DHA are preferentially shuttled to the fetus at this time, leaving a smaller supply for mom. I’m sure most moms will agree; we always give our children the best of what we have!Unfortunately, unless a mother is eating a lot of fish, or supplementing with a high quality fish oil product, the new mom can be left depleted of DHA, and therefore at risk of developing postpartum depression. Following childbirth, a newborn’s nervous system continues to grow rapidly, and similar to pregnancy, DHA is preferentially shuttled through breast milk to the new baby. Again, leaving mom with depleted stores of healthy, essential fat, furthering her risk factors for depression and baby blues.The bottom line is that pre and postnatal supplementation with essential fatty acids is as essential as a prenatal vitamin! International organizations recommend a minimum of 300mg daily of DHA, however I suggest 450mg of DHA. Try Nordic Naturals Prenatal DHA, which will give you this amount in just 2 capsules.–Dr. Keri Marshall MS, ND is a licensed Naturopathic Doctor who specializes in holistic pediatrics and women’s medicine.

One edamommy attempts to cut meat out of her life.

I read an article in the New York Times about vegansexuals. That’s a new one. So, pity the poor singletons today who not only have to worry about finding true love, but now they have to make sure they are culinary-compatible. I met my husband when I was 37 and he was 49 and I am soooooo happy that I never had to worry about smelling like meat or worrying that my yogurt addiction was detrimental to my relationship. The article was alarming. Does your date eat some meat, no meat, no eggs, some dairy? Holy cow! Time to get a dog. They don’t care. They lick you when you come home all sweaty from the gym, think the mailman looks scrumptious and think you are agorgeous, intelligent, witty genius.

One quick Google and I see there are many lifestyle-based internet dating sites; I’m talking food orientation. The home page of one of the sites has a couple kissing next to a buffet of vegetable crudités (uh-oh – I spy ranch dressing:. “You’re not a vegan! You lied to me! You probably eat hot wings in your closet. You, you cheatin’ vegan!”)Well, I am shouting it from the mountaintops: I am a vegan (sort of) and I am in love with a bone-afied meat-eater! There. I said it. -“Edamommy” Mary Talalay is a writer for KIWI Magazine

One edamommy attempts to cut meat out of her life.

I have a question.

There’s Tofurky, soy hot dogs, fakin bacon and soy sausage. In theory, you can use soy to make any kind of meat, right?

So, I think we should get really creative. If it’s just soy and not real critter, then why not:

Tofeasal – weasel

Tomingo – flamingo

Tofunky – monkey

Tofoceros – rhinoceros

Tofuffalo – buffalo

Tolar Bear

“Honey, your toshrew is getting cold!” “I’m not sure what goes best with tofaardvark. White or red?” “Mmmm. I’ll have the steamed tofedgehog.”I just don’t see why not. If it’s not meat anyway, let’s get exotic! It will probably all taste like chicken, only gamier.

-”Edamommy” Mary Talalay is a writer for KIWI Magazine

The state of women’s emotional health during and following pregnancy has become a hot topic on Capitol Hill. During the spring of 2008, Congress will be addressing provisions for “The Mother’s Act”, Senate Bill 1375, which provides federal funding for the development of new treatments for anxiety, depression, and unpleasant mood changes that can occur with motherhood. The “baby blues” of motherhood are characterized by mood swings, feelings of being overwhelmed, tearfulness, irritability, mood changes and a sense of vulnerability, all of which any new mother can attest to!

While the excitement around the passing of this bill is high, it can’t be overlooked that much of the funding for this bill is coming from the pharmaceutical industry. Let me assure you, pregnant women do not have an anti-depressant deficiency. Nutritional treatments for improving emotional health during and following pregnancy have been scientifically proven and need to be considered as well.

It is well established that appropriate nutrition greatly improves pregnancy outcomes for both mom and baby. During pregnancy, a women’s physiology changes dramatically to meet the needs of the growing baby. Nutritional demands, in the form of fat, protein and calories, must be increased to ensure that these physiologic changes are met.

Be sure to write your Senators and let them know that you support this bill, especially if it is inclusive of non-pharmaceutical means as well, including, but not limited to nutritional intervention. Let your voice be heard!!

–Dr. Keri Marshall MS, ND is a licensed Naturopathic Doctor who specializes in holistic pediatrics and women’s medicine.

One edamommy attempts to cut meat out of her life.

I haven’t mentioned how I am going to approach the non-food side of veganism. I do own leather shoes and handbags. I am sure some of my cosmetics have lanolin and honey. When I was a Pre-V (pre-vegan), I bought mostly organic food and more natural cosmetics and products. Although I won’t be removing all non-vegan items from my home, I won’t be buying any more items which contain animal products for myself, and I’ll try to find non-animal substitutes for my family.

Here’s a loophole which I plan to exploit shamelessly. I am a big fan of consignment and thrift shops, so I feel less guilty about giving clothes a second life even if they contain wool or leather.

I went to my local Goodwill today and I spent $9 on clothing. Here’s what I got in the kids department: Three Laura Ashley summer dresses, two flannel-lined jeans, two Gymboree capris, one very sparkly dance leotard, one Hanna Andersson spring dress, a light spring jacket, a VHS tape (the Wiggles with Bindi the Jungle Girl) and an Elmo book that talks. Nothing I bought had any animals in it, but the VHS tape had animals on it (that’s ok).

Hope I am still in good standing with all of the vegans I haven’t met. Not sure how I will know if I am not. I wonder if a little “V” will appear on my forehead, like Harry Potter’s lightening bolt.

-”Edamommy” Mary Talalay is a writer for KIWI Magazine

Just like the body needs essential amino acids for normal functions, it also requires another essential nutrient that is often overlooked. Essential fatty acids (EFAs) are considered essential fats because they are required for health, but cannot be produced by the body. These fats, known as omega-3 and omega-6, are commonly called the “good fats.”

Hands down, children are deficient in the beneficial omega-3 fats (as are most Americans) and not the omega-6 fats. Kids consume excessive pro-inflammatory omega-6 fats from corn, soy, safflower and sunflower oils. An imbalance in the omega-6 to omega-3 ratio has bee